On Saturday morning, unlike other Saturday’s,I found myself in the house watching the Wedding show on Citizen TV. To be honest,the show is sassy and colourful but quite extraordinary to be true to a small timer in life like me. However, it was full of warmth, beauty and elegance that many of us just wish for in life.
I was not enjoying the show but I was simply satisfying my curiosity. As a potential heart breaker to somebody’s daughter, I have to upgrade my game by having insight into what goes on in the world of the females since wedding are more of ladies thing than are men.
As I watched the show, it hit me that these shows are not meant for people like us since at the base of these glamorous weddings is the extravagance of the rich in the Kenyan society who have lots of money but how to spend is the problem. A certain man in Mukuru kwa Njenga,while these weddings are going on,doesn’t know where the next meal for his family is going to come from yet a couple are riding in a convoy of prados and Range Rover sport's cars snaking their way to the exotic Mamba Village in Nairobi to exchange a one minute simple thing like the wedding vows. I looked at the faces of the people and the smiles and comfort in their eyes and they smelled of nothing but money. I look at the cars, the dresses and the venues of the wedding which never before I had imagined that existed in Kenya and all I see is bills and bills with Kenyatta’s face sewn together to give the grand face of the pompous wedding. It is apparent that someone’s has spent a fortune but the ease with which they carry themselves show that the money spent has little to worry them in any way.
I tell myself that these are no ordinary weddings for people like me and maybe you. They seem to me as if they have been stage managed and like some kind of a trailer to a blockbuster love film yet to be produced than an affair to mark the meaning of a couples unhappy life in a prison called marriage.
To pull off weddings like these ones for someone like me means that I will have to go round with profomas making people spent sleepless as they think about raising money for my wedding! Or maybe I will have to go bank and take advantage of the many personal loans that the many banks in Kenya are offering .All these options are outrageous to me and are the only safest way to inviting troubles in marriage. Be as it is, wedding is out of my mind.
The sad reality is that many ladies who ever want get married want to make their grand entry into the institution of marriage through a wedding. This fact smells a lot of trouble for penniless young men like us. It means that if we are not to have colourful weddings in the offing then it means beginning to disappoint people from the very start. Does It mean then that I am going to be less successful at getting somebody to party with in a marriage because I am not a wedding material.
I am thinking of marrying one day but right now I have to worry about getting a job which I wonder if it will be able to finance my wedding gift to my fiancee. If it would by my wish, I won’t bother about wedding but if it is the only gift that I can give my wife. And what if she wants a wedding so badly.
Today’s girl who has watched the pompous shows such as the wedding show has her eyes set on high things like a colourful wedding that we many are just in trouble. No wonder today’s man would prefer to date to eternity but never bring up the subject of marriage because the next thing that follows is the wedding headache. It is a common thing that men when it comes to weddings they are always like boys being dragged to church when they would rather prefer joini9ng their fellow boys to go and steal the neighbour’s mangoes. So even a wedding was in the offing men would participate half mindedly as they leave everything to the ladies who would be more than eager to take charge and make it the wedding of their dreams. Men don’t enjoy wedding but for the lady that is the moment to prove to her friends and enemies that she is still the lady.
Therefore the wedding having become an expensive affair as they are and given that I don’t fancy a wedding, I think I would really wish that they would be avoidable. However, the wedding show which seems only targets the rich audience while it brews trouble for the small timer-men like me, I would prefer to take charge of the remote and forget that it exists. It isn’t my cup of tea.It is just too much a show of money power than an eye opener to the kind of wedding young lovers can have.
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i agree
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